hi ramesh. it's pleasant to meet you. i'm really glad that you're a sr executive in your job, well respected and well to do because it seems as if you may have a difficult life.
i have to admit, your profile was a little difficult for me to grasp. to start you have no picture. what am i supposed to do with that? no picture. that's totally lame. beyond your lack of picture, all i could pick up is that you're 46, 5"7", from india, a hindi, live in silicon valley (no city specified) and a you're a widower. you don't give your hair color, eye color, exercise habits, interests, body type, sign, or pets you have or like. and you're looking for a significantly younger girl (35 - 39), who doesn't have or want kids, never smokes and never drinks. oh, and she can't be black.
now if i am to understand this correctly, your wife died during childbirth. and your baby is 13 months old. your wife of 18 years? and you are already looking for a replacement?
and then there's the odd fact that your baby lives in india and you live in silicon valley. let's just say we were going to meet, i live in los angeles. i'm not sure how this would work. did you envision me commuting to silicon valley to meet and date you, and then commuting to india to be a stepmother to your baby? however you were thinking it might work, you should have read my profile more closely. i don't date outside of a 5 mile radius of west hollywood.
while you have a 13 month old baby, you also have a 9th grader who you say will be off to college soon. i don't consider 4 years soon. and i find it odd that you waited 12 years before having your second child. i don't know, it just has a sort of a strange ring to it.
ramesh, i think that getting involved with you would be an emotional disaster.
you really think that a 35 year old woman (ie, me) is going to forgo having her own children (ie, mine) in order to split time between silicon valley and india (ie, when i don't commute) in order to take care of your infant and 14 year old (ie, the strangest age range) when you're only 14 months widowed (ie, too short a time) from a woman you were married to for 18 years (ie, probably still emotionally involved)?
i don't think you need to be on this site, i think you need to be on therapy.com.
but good luck. i know some romanian women who might be interested.
4 comments:
1. If the baby is 13 months old.. Wouldn't that mean that his wife died just a little over a year ago?
2. And his post to you was rather short. Seems awfully presumptuous to be attacking him and making the accusations you are on such little information.
3. This is a rather twisted hobby. Making fun of people, or harshly tearing them apart and then posting their private emails on a blog for everyone to read. It seems like a rather cruel thing to do. Perhaps you should be in therapy.
1. 14 months, my bad. i stand corrected and have corrected it.
2. the point of the critique is that on match, you give people as much information as you can so that you might be able to see if you'd be compatible. he gave nothing. and what he gave was enough to scare me away for good. he's gonna hear it at some point, from me, or from someone who is much harsher.
3. oh i've been in therapy for years. it hasn't helped. i still feel the obligation to tell men when they've messed up their chances at love because of a message or a profile.
4. and you're one to speak. you have to be anonymous to tear someone apart. at least i show my face.
Oh, I'm so glad you're back. :)
Also, "Anonymous," most women on Match are far too kindhearted to tell it like it is and show men the errors of their ways. (I'm one of those said women.) It's really awesome to read somebody's brutally honest opinion. Besides, almost all of these men don't take time to actually read someone's profile. They see a picture they like and send a message without taking the time to know the person they're looking at.
Presumptuous? Cruel? Puh-leeze. These men are ASKING for it.
katie - i'm so glad i'm back too (lol). my new goal is to balance the blog with real life? cross your fingers for me.
and thank you for calling out anonymous. he seems to be posting rather frequently, so i had to set up comment moderation. i hate doing that, but he's just mean. i want everyone to be able to critique as they like, but given nasty comments like his, it makes looking at my blog (which i like) less fun.
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